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Doctor Strange and the Madness of Motherhood
For me, the movie is not about suburban motherhood. It’s just about motherhood, and the madness it can manifest.

Katie Niemczyk
Aug 25, 20223 min read


Narcissism, Vulnerability, & You
THIS is the nuance I’ve been looking for in learning about narcissism. Because in my experience, narcissists CAN be vulnerable &...

Katie Niemczyk
Mar 13, 20241 min read


Teaching Kids to Regulate
Once you figure out what soothes your kid, it works 60% of the time, every time.

Katie Niemczyk
Mar 9, 20242 min read


Because Grandma's a Narcissist, Honey
I haven’t let my mom be alone with my kids in over 3 months. Before that, it had been almost a year for the same reason: her manipulation...

Katie Niemczyk
Mar 8, 20242 min read


Looking Back from 40
It’s a terrifying thing to realize you’re the child of covert narcissists. That neither of your parents knows how to truly love another...

Katie Niemczyk
Mar 5, 20242 min read


The Worst Advice: New Mom Edition
What’s the worst piece of advice you got as a new mom? Mine was when a lactation consultant told me, “Technically, every time the baby...

Katie Niemczyk
Mar 3, 20241 min read


How to Fix Education: Look Outside Yourself
The number of people with no interest in seeing anything outside what affects/affected them personally is in direct proportion to how broken

Katie Niemczyk
Mar 2, 20241 min read


Your PMS is Sacred
I’m starting to think Mother Nature gave women PMS to show us how sacred our anger is. It can’t be a coincidence that it’s connected to our

Katie Niemczyk
Feb 29, 20242 min read


AuDHD: Neurodivergence, BOGO-style
Growing up—& even in college—I never understood why mean popular people thought I was weird. But now I’m pretty sure mean popular people are

Katie Niemczyk
Feb 28, 20241 min read


No More Explaining to Do
With (covert) narcissists , the obtuseness—the constant “misunderstanding”—is the weapon. It’s how they undermine your confidence in

Katie Niemczyk
Feb 27, 20241 min read


Loneliness & Writing: Meditations on a Novel I've Never Read
Perhaps I started out writing a world to rival the one foisted upon me by covert narcissistic parents, but the project has expanded in its

Katie Niemczyk
Feb 24, 20242 min read


Self-integration with ADHD
Something I’m working on as a woman with anxiety and late-diagnosed ADHD exacerbated by complex trauma is integrating my hyper-confident...

Katie Niemczyk
Feb 15, 20241 min read


Tug of War (a poem)
I’m 16, sitting in a diner across from my angry father, crying into my scrambled eggs as I try to explain

Katie Niemczyk
Feb 7, 20243 min read


Is "Gentle Parenting" Creating Behavior Problems in Schools?
OMG WeAreTeachers no no no. As a former teacher and current “gentle” parent, I can tell you right now this ain’t it. So can Dr. Becky at...

Katie Niemczyk
Jan 18, 20243 min read


A Tiny ADHD Christmas Wish for You
One reason I know I have ADHD and not “just anxiety” is my hyper-creativity. Ever since I was little I’ve needed to make: cookie recipes...

Katie Niemczyk
Dec 23, 20231 min read


Curse-Breakers (a poem)
I am the granddaughter of alcoholics, workaholics, schizophrenics, and religious zealots. Yes, I’m a mess, but I’m working through it....

Katie Niemczyk
Nov 27, 20231 min read


Went to the Hardware Store for Oranges Again, Damn It.
Today I made the mistake (for the 1,597th time) of being emotionally vulnerable with my dad. For some reason, my silly little heart keeps...

Katie Niemczyk
Oct 19, 20234 min read


Anger Belongs to Iranian Mothers
Sometimes I get angry with the Dalai Lama-- ironic, I know-- who says that "anger is not helpful," is "no use in solving problems." As a...

Katie Niemczyk
Dec 14, 20222 min read


Gentle Parenting
The term “gentle parenting” is misleading. It sounds so…calm. Perhaps it feels that way to some parents. But for many of us, I suspect,...

Katie Niemczyk
Dec 6, 20222 min read


USA Today writer is shocked by the possibility of more school shutdowns? You’ve got to be kidding me
Ingrid Jacques, writing for USA Today, would like to talk about people–namely Dr. Anthony Fauci–being “wildly irresponsible” in...

Katie Niemczyk
Dec 5, 202211 min read
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